***If you find yourself here because you have just lost your baby, let me start by saying I’m so sorry for your loss, I have been there and my heart goes out to you. It is the worst pain imaginable. You’re not alone though, there are so many women who have walked in your shoes. If you ever need to talk, email me. I’m almost always around.***
When you lose a baby in the 2nd trimester what most people don’t realize is that your milk comes in.
Within a day or two my milk had come in full force with Elena. I knew it would happen but I was still a little in shock and of course upset.
It seemed like my body was mocking me. It knew that I had just given birth and therefore needed milk for my baby but it didn’t know NOT to have my water break at 18 weeks?! What kind of crap is that?!
I digress. Ever since I lost Elena I’ve joined quite a few loss groups. One group in particular gets new members almost every single week (my pPROM group) and inevitably the topic of breast milk coming in comes up and without fail someone says not to let warm water run over them in the shower. Another thing that always pops up? To wear a tight sports bra and essentially bind your breasts.
Both things are incorrect.
After hearing this advice being given yet again tonight I’ve decided to compile a list of things you can/shouldn’t do to help when you’re milk comes in and you’re dealing with the grief of losing your baby.
- DO: Let warm water run over your breasts in the shower. Yes it will cause you to leak but it will cause relief. It will NOT stimulate your breasts enough to produce more milk.
- DO: Express milk, including pumping. The key is to make sure you’re pumping or expressing just enough to stop the discomfort. If you pump until you’re empty that’s when stimulation occurs.
- DON’T: Bind your breasts. Doing so can cause plugged ducts and mastitis.
- DO: Wear a supportive bra.
- DO: Drink No More Milk Tea from Earth Mama Angel Baby. The key ingredient is Sage.
- DO: Drink as much as you want. Limiting liquids will not stop breast milk production.
- DO: Put cabbage leafs in your bra. Once they have wilted put in new leafs!
- DO: Ice your beasts to help with engorgement
- Starting a birth control whose main ingredient is Estrogen as it will decrease milk supply
- Sudafed with regular use can help decrease milk supply
I hope this has helped some Moms and as I mentioned before I’m always available via email.