Now that I’m a loss Mom I’ve become deeply involved in a lot of Loss Mom Communities. I’ve made friends. I cheer for these women as they get their BFPs and I pray for them and give them virtual hugs on their bad days.
Just recently I gave out some virtual hugs and prayers to a woman that I have gotten to know through a Life after Loss group. I felt a kinship to her because she lost her first child, a daughter due to an incompetent cervix and pPROM (premature pre-term rupture of the membranes) in July of 2011. Four months ago she was blessed with getting pregnant again, amazingly enough with twins, twin Girls.
Just a few days ago her water broke again and her little girls went to heaven. We were all devastated for her and her family. And I ask that if you feel so inclined to life up her family in prayers, I know they need every single one that they get.
I remember when Elena died a few people sent me cards and I loved getting them it was nice to know that people cared. So while I was at the card store I stopped to pick up a sympathy card.
And this is what I found:
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There are FOUR cards dedicated to the loss of a pet. Two general and one each specific to loss of a cat or loss of a dog.
One card dedicated to the loss of a child. One to the loss of a son and one to the loss of a daughter. There were NO cards specific to the loss of a pregnancy or a baby. and the rest were all generic.
Is this how taboo pregnancy and baby loss is? Are there seriously cards for losing a pet but none for losing a baby? Are there seriously more cards for the loss of a pet than loss of a child?!
What is wrong with our society?
1 in 4 women will lose a pregnancy or have a child that dies before the age of 1.
1 in 4.
But don’t go to the Hallmark store if you need a card for one of these ladies. You won’t find anything there.
I hope you never need these resources but in case you do. They do exist.