12 Positive Parenting Book Must Haves

Today I sat down and I counted all of the books I really wanted to read that were on my bookshelf. I counted 41. FORTY ONE! Clearly, I’m a book hoarder. I can’t help myself though because there are so many awesome books out there. Many of the books on my bookshelf are parenting books. Most if not all are related to gentle parenting or peaceful parenting as some call it. When I think about the way I want to parent gentle parenting is the way I want to do it. I often fail but I try every single day to be better. Right now I’m reading Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids but I have a ton more on my book shelf and even more on my wish list.

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Here are my top 12 positive parenting book must haves!

Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids

Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Markham

Based on the latest research on brain development and extensive clinical experience with parents, Dr. Laura Markham’s approach is as simple as it is effective. Her message: Fostering emotional connection with your child creates real and lasting change. When you have that vital connection, you don’t need to threaten, nag, plead, bribe—or even punish.

This remarkable guide will help parents better understand their own emotions—and get them in check—so they can parent with healthy limits, empathy, and clear communication to raise a self-disciplined child. Step-by-step examples give solutions and kid-tested phrasing for parents of toddlers right through the elementary years.

Unconditional Parenting

Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn

Most parenting guides begin with the question “How can we get kids to do what they’re told?” and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, “What do kids need—and how can we meet those needs?” What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them.

Playful Parenting

Playful Parenting by Lawrence J. Cohen

Have you ever stepped back to watch what really goes on when your children play? As psychologist Lawrence J. Cohen points out, play is children’s way of exploring the world, communicating deep feelings, getting close to those they care about, working through stressful situations, and simply blowing off steam. That’s why “playful parenting” is so important and so successful in building strong, close bonds between parents and children. Through play we join our kids in their world–and help them…

Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves

Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves by Naomi Aldort

Every parent would happily give up ever scolding, punishing or threatening if she only knew how to ensure that her toddler/child/teen would thrive and act responsibly without such painful measures. Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves is the answer to this universal wish. It is not about gentle ways to control a child, but about a way of being and of understanding a child so she/he can be the best of herself, not because she fears you or seeks your approval but because she wants to, of her own free will. Aldort’s guidance takes the struggle out of parenting. The book is full of real life stories, often leaving the reader moved to tears or laughter and relieved to discover that there is a kinder way. The SALVE communication formula has been praised for providing a hybrid of The Work of Byron Katie and Nonviolent Communication. It gives parents the tools to move beyond their initial unproductive reaction, to a response that is connecting and empowering to the child and to themselves.

how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish

This bestselling classic includes fresh insights and suggestions as well as the author’s time-tested methods to solve common problems and build foundations for lasting relationships, including innovative ways to:
·      Cope with your child’s negative feelings, such as frustration, anger, and disappointment
·      Express your strong feelings without being hurtful
·      Engage your child’s willing cooperation
·      Set firm limits and maintain goodwill
·      Use alternatives to punishment that promote self-discipline
·      Understand the difference between helpful and unhelpful praise
·      Resolve family conflicts peacefully

how to talk so little kids will listen

How to Talk So Little Kids Listen by Joanna Faber & Julie King

This one is for kids aged 2-7 where as the above book is geared towards older children.

This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers of young children to forge rewarding, joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds, truculent three-year-olds, ferocious four-year-olds, foolhardy five-year-olds, self-centered six-year-olds, and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old. And, it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents, teachers, siblings, and peers.

Parenting with Presence

Parenting with Presence by Susan Stiffelman

This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers of young children to forge rewarding, joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds, truculent three-year-olds, ferocious four-year-olds, foolhardy five-year-olds, self-centered six-year-olds, and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old. And, it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents, teachers, siblings, and peers.

The Gentle Parent

The Gentle Parent by L.R. Knost

The Gentle Parent: Positive, Practical, Effective Discipline’ provides parents with the tools they need to implement the Three C’s of gentle discipline–Connection, Communication, and Cooperation–to create a peaceful home and a healthy parent/child relationship. Presented in bite-sized chapters perfect for busy parents and written in L.R.Knost’s signature conversational style, ‘The Gentle Parent’ is packed with practical suggestions and real-life examples to help parents through the normal ups and downs of gentle discipline on the road to raising a generation of world changers.

Parenting from the Inside Out

Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel J. Siegel & Mary Hartzell

In Parenting from the Inside Out, child psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and early childhood expert Mary Hartzell, M.Ed., explore the extent to which our childhood experiences shape the way we parent. Drawing on stunning new findings in neurobiology and attachment research, they explain how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories, which will help them raise compassionate and resilient children.

The Whole Brain Child

The Whole Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel

In this pioneering, practical book, Daniel J. Siegel, neuropsychiatrist and author of the bestselling Mindsight, and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson offer a revolutionary approach to child rearing with twelve key strategies that foster healthy brain development, leading to calmer, happier children. The authors explain—and make accessible—the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures. The “upstairs brain,” which makes decisions and balances emotions, is under construction until the mid-twenties. And especially in young children, the right brain and its emotions tend to rule over the logic of the left brain. No wonder kids throw tantrums, fight, or sulk in silence. By applying these discoveries to everyday parenting, you can turn any outburst, argument, or fear into a chance to integrate your child’s brain and foster vital growth.

No Drama Discpline

No-Drama Discipline by Daniel J Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson

 Defining the true meaning of the “d” word (to instruct, not to shout or reprimand), the authors explain how to reach your child, redirect emotions, and turn a meltdown into an opportunity for growth. By doing so, the cycle of negative behavior (and punishment) is essentially brought to a halt, as problem solving becomes a win/win situation.

Positive Parenting The Essential Guide

Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide by Rebecca Eanes

In this eagerly anticipated guide, Eanes shares her hard-won wisdom for overcoming limiting thought patterns and recognizing emotional triggers, as well as advice for connecting with kids at each stage, from infancy to adolescence. This heartfelt, insightful advice comes not from an “expert,” but from a learning, evolving parent. Filled with practical, solution-oriented advice, this is an empowering guide for any parent who longs to end the yelling, power struggles, and downward spiral of acting out, punishment, resentment, and shame–and instead foster an emotional connection that helps kids learn self-discipline, feel confident, and create lasting, loving bonds.

Do you own any of these positive parenting books? Which one is your favorite? Which one do you want? 

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Smart Flow for the #PouchWin

When Mason and Kyla were little we did Baby-Led Weaning which also at times included those little pureed pouches because to me, it fit right into baby-led weaning. I wasn’t feeding them, they were feeding themselves. More often than not though my kids would either flat out refuse to eat them OR pour half the pouch down their shirt instead of in their mouth.

Talk about a mess.

I refuse to give up though because I’ve seen a good friend’s baby suck a pouch down in about 5 seconds flat and they just make life so much easier. We are always on the go, so anything that can easily go on the go with us is a major win. The problem with pouches though has always been that when left in the wrong hands they end up everywhere. The game has changed though with Gerber Smart flow.

Did you see that? They held it upside down and it didn’t immediately drip everywhere. I can already envision all the messes I won’t have to clean up. Emilia has already gotten her hands on one and it was a hit. I was so excited because my other two weren’t nearly as into pouches when they were little, although they are now. Apparently since it’s not in a jar it’s not baby food and it’s delicious. Go figure!

gerber grabbers

Little miss independent was thrilled to be feeding herself and I was thrilled at how easy and relatively mess-free lunchtime was. As for the big kids they were all about the smart flow pouches for snack time! Smart Flow is brand new so you won’t be able to find it everywhere just yet. We live in a small-ish town and were able to find ours at our local Kroger. If you’re lucky they’ll have a nice little sign like this one to let you know they’re in!

gerber smart flow at Kroger

We got the Apple, Mango, Strawberry flavor and Strawberry Banana. And I can’t wait to see what other flavors are coming out. The Apple Sweet Potato and Banana Blueberry sound like winners too!

What has been your experience with pouches in the past? Will you try them again now that smart flow exists?

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The Art of Snacking at the Park

I’m happy to partner with Acorn Influence and Annie’s Homegrown for this sponsored post.

As soon as the weather allows, the kids and I spend as much time as possible at the playground. We live in an amazing area that not only has multiple playgrounds but also parks that allow for visits to the river and hiking trails. We are lucky!

We also lucked out in the friend department. We have an amazing playgroup and someone is always ready and willing to join as at the park. Whenever we head to the park I usually pack the kids a lunch and a ton of snacks. There’s something about visiting the park that screams “SNACK TIME” to kids. In fact, I’ll feed my kids right before we leave in an effort to limit snacking at the park and as soon as we get there and get settled my kids are HUNGRY! THEY NEED A SNACK. If I’m lucky they’ll be eyeing the snacks I brought and not those of the kid at the neighboring table.

In order to combat this phenomenon known as “Snack FOMO”. I try to have special “just for the park” snacks. We headed to Walmart to stock up on our special park snacks since we’re home for an entire week on spring break and we found Annie’s Organic White Cheddar Popcorn in the popcorn aisle. They’re organic and made with REAL cheese, making it a better for the kids snack than some other choices at the store.

annie's white chedder popcorn

Another thing I’ve learned to do when it comes to park snacking? BRING EXTRA. See it’s not just my kids who suffer from snack FOMO but also other people’s children. So we don’t just bring a bag of our favorite Annie’s Organic Graham Crackers. We bring the whole box.

annie's bunny grahams

And if we’re working on the trifecta of snacking my kids actually sharing it with each other rounds it out.

I don’t always go for the trifecta, but when I do Annie’s is typically involved.

kyla loves annie's

Got that trifecta? Better for us. Enough for everyone. Sharing. What are you favorite Annie’s snacks?

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In the Kitchen

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Smart Flow for the #PouchWin

When Mason and Kyla were little we did Baby-Led Weaning which also at times included those little pureed pouches because to me, it fit right into baby-led weaning. I wasn't feeding them, they were feeding themselves. More often than not though my kids would either flat out refuse to eat them OR pour ... read more